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It is a matter of fact that "work" is considered a motive of uneasiness and difficult for couples and families. Often we cannot focalize positive relationships between family and work due to the kind of work produced by technical progress, assembly chain, robotization of machines reducing human space. Therefore the spirituality of work, that is to say, the vocational dimension of work, disappears. Society, by planning a quality of life only interested in pleasure, success, power, money, has led us to consider our job a negative obligation, almost a punishment to be avoided rather than to be appreciated. Thus, this process has influenced not only singles but also couples and families. Long absences from home caused by many jobs can be regarded as a motive of extraneousness and coolness in relationships with wives and children.
Today even women work. It has become a necessity because most of the couples need money to live in a proper way. Unfortunately two salaries aren't enough. But women's jobs must be flexible to permit them to be at home in time. Thus, even if time has changed, I think that women should know how to cook and look after their children as these chores still remain the fulcrum of women's roles.
The real love for a person is expressed not only through feelings but also through the commitment of the work in order to help her or his beloved. One cannot say "I love you" and then if the couple meets with difficulties leaves the other alone. If the husband sickens the wife, who has been peaceful at home since then, must roll up her sleeves and search for a job to help her family. Therefore the job becomes a basic and concrete means to express, through effort, commitment, sacrifice and her devotion.
Equality in culture and in the field of work has deleted the dependency of the wife by her husband as, today, family has two "heads": wife and husband. However, on the side of woman/wife, work changes into true and intense love when she deals with a double effort by working outside and inside her house (as a waiter, nurse or as a housewife) to support her own vocation or to help her family.
After the revolution of the feminists, women rediscover family. It is not seen any longer as a "cage" where all the aspirations concerning success and personal proposition are confined. On the contrary, a space in which women themselves find a new dimension complementary to professional realizations, a new role in society, hence, diversified and multiple but, above all, behind the times.
Today young men expect an happy marriage. A marriage is based on an a profound relationship where the couple carries out a series of aspirations and wishes that don't include the rest of their social group in which they usually interact. A tighter relation is required in the reciprocal expectations. They recall a continuous attention or care between the two partners. They purport that one gives a sense of the other's life following his/her own need. For this reason marriage comes out highly problematic and changeable.
(In this picture the woman is saying that "Too much progress makes family foundations wear thin, the man replies "men included")
The collaboration in the family is the secret to thrive. In my opinion, wives should share their husbands' burdens and worries. Women must encourage and give them good advice and they should also learn how to cook (but it is not an obligation) some mouthwatering food especially in case their husbands coming back from work look sad and thoughtful. Men, on the other hand, must take care of their family in the sense that they must supervise and be heedful about everything. Women have changed their habits due to the economical and social change of daily life but they still remain the ladies of the house responsible of the proceeding and administration.
Sabina, Italy
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